The problem is that not everyone will define their personal self-fulfillment to include a responsible, lifelong, committed marriage. “Self-autonomy” becomes a sexual version of a Ponzi scheme, where some find satisfaction, and many others are left as victims. A man leaving his wife and children for another woman operates according to the principle of self-autonomy. Unmarried parents deny dignity to their children by refusing to get married, but they are living by “self-autonomy,” so who can judge them, under the Supreme Court’s principle?
It has become devastatingly clear that virtually the entirety of the gay-marriage activist effort was built on a lie. That lie, repeated ad nauseam, was this: gay marriage will affect nobody outside of the gays who wish to partake in it.
The question is — why did we believe this lie in the first place? It’s clear those who wanted homosexual marriage weren’t after freedom. They were after acceptance and applause for their lifestyle choices. So why did we ever believe this? “What harm does a homosexual couple getting married do to you?”
It all depends on whether or not I’m forced to take part in the celebration, doesn’t it? And it’s looking increasingly like everyone will be forced to participate — they’ll be trolling churches, dragging people into these weddings. It will become something of a “litmus test,” if the current presidential campaign is any indicator.
“Have you ever been to a gay wedding?”
The question is asked breathlessly, in an almost rhetorical style. For what answer can you give that will not brand you as a bigot but “yes?” It’s the new inquisitional test — the wrong answer will land you out of a job, out of polite society, out of life. You will be “unhumaned,” placed beneath the dignity of even being recognized as a person in the proper sense.
Everyone is tired. I don’t have to be told — I can see it in the faces of those I meet, and in the faces of those I see standing in line at the airport, at the store, even at church. This sort of tiredness isn’t just about getting too little sleep, although there is plenty of that going around, but rather a tiredness we barely recognize yet. Perhaps, like the fish who will never discover water, we will never discover this tiredness, never see it for what it really is, because we are immersed in it. What kind of tiredness is this?
Perhaps we should call it motion tiredness. The angst of constant motion.
It is the tiredness of a treadmill, the tiredness of Sisyphus, always moving and never really getting anywhere. We are like travelers on a huge ship, always moving with the waves of new trends and things, and never really getting anyplace. The deck pitches under us, before us, around us, throwing our values, our institutions, our ground, overboard, leaving no place to stand. We need look no further than the world of technology for the perfect description — folks deeply involved in technology have long known the motion sickness of constant change. For instance —
If you’re not working on the next big thing, you’re nothing.
Progress is a fine thing in measure. But the progressive ideal has broken out and become the foundation of our world — a constantly shifting deck as the only steady foundation on which to build. This motion tiredness has stretched to our political world, where there is no law, only change posing as law. There is so much outrage anger spends itself on the rocks of “too much.” There is so much “hope and change” that all the hope and change blends into the countryside like a blur of waves as we pass over the sea tossing the ship too and fro. This motion tiredness has stretched to the social world, where hashtags spring up overnight, then disappear in the wake behind us like foam; a meaningless nothing glittering on the top of the wave for a moment before being swept under. People become stars when they’re young (“she’s so cute”), grow up before our eyes (“she’s so sexy”), and then fall like rotten apples (“she’s so raunchy”). We cast our gaze around looking for the next child star we can take from the innocence of the cradle to the muck of exploitation in a never ending cycle of “fresh meat.”
What can we do to get out of the crashing waves? The answer is simple, but not. The answer is to find some shore on which to ground ourselves.
There is, of course, only one place to ground ourselves that will stop the motion tiredness. Solomon pursued the “new,” the “novel,” until he was sick of it. His conclusion?
The end of the matter; all has been heard. Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. – Ecclesiastes 12:13
To rest in Christ Jesus is the only answer.
The homosexual marriage decision this last week wasn’t inevitable because of the “long march of rights” throughout our culture, but rather because of the long march of me. Reading the long, meandering, emotional majority “decision” (if it can be called such), yout can’t help but to be struck at how often the theme of loneliness and self-fulfillment rise to the surface. Very little is discussed in terms of the social impact of marriage, the impact on children, the history of the institution, or even what interest the state might have in “love.” Instead, there are high flying passages on the importance of happiness, and how people deserve marriage to prevent their loneliness — how terrible it is for someone to cry out in the night and not have anyone to answer.
In other words, marriage is, like everything else in our world, all about me. Examples abound. For instance, HuffPost has just started a new section called Divorce, which is, as you might imagine, primarily focused on positive stories about people getting divorced. One such story —
You want to know what the most eye opening experience was for me? It was when I had to write my Match.com profile, and I realized how completely uninteresting I had become. I no longer had hobbies. I had no interests, and I had to default to saying I like exercising and traveling the world. (You know because everyone suddenly loves those things when you’re dating.) My divorce made me dig deep, and really discover who I was, and what made me tick. It taught me to understand what made me happy, and what I should pursue for the rest of my life. Granted, that didn’t all happen overnight, but it was my divorce that set me on that journey.
Hold the presses! The Supreme Court forgot to mention that marriage doesn’t always solve loneliness. Being married doesn’t guarantee happiness in the modern sense. Marriage isn’t knowing there will be someone to answer when you “call out in the middle of the night.” Here we have an actual, living, example of someone who’s marriage didn’t end loneliness, didn’t enable and empower them, didn’t satisfy their longing for human companionship. How can this be?
Because when you take two sinners and put them in the same house, and tell them the entire arrangement is about self fulfillment, you’re going to end up with a train wreck every time.
You see, the only way there’s ever going to be someone there for you when you cry out in loneliness in the middle of the night is if you’re the person who answers when someone else raises that same cry. The only way there’s ever going to be someone who encourages your inner desires is if you’re the person who encourages the inner desires of someone else. The only way you’re ever going to have someone to care about you is if you care for someone else.
The modern view of marriage is, though, that it’s an institution where someone else pledges their life, their fortune, their caring, their love, their sex, to my pleasure, to my future — to me. My life is supposed to be a party, and I’m supposed to get married so I have someone else to clean the mess up.
Homosexual marriage — and the destruction of businesses and people who oppose it — is and was inevitable because marriage has become focused on affirming us each individually in everything we do. And if someone won’t affirm my choice, my “happiness,” my party, my “love,” then they must be destroyed.
“ Contemporary liberalism, by contrast, views man as a weak and fragile creature. Adversity doesn’t forge character. It stigmatizes and demeans. Unless others affirm our choices, they are worthless. We have no unshakable inner convictions or faith. We are all insecure. Promethean man, it turns out, is a pathetic creature. He thinks himself the measure of all things, but must in fact have his solipsistic existence be publicly affirmed and dignified by the state. He is simultaneously everything and nothing. ”
“ That’s terrifying, because it means that for a fair number of people in what’s supposed to be a democracy, “winning” in any normal political sense simply isn’t enough. They are not really trying to capture something as pedestrian as political equality, nor are they satisfied if they get it. They are not really seeking a win in the courts, or a legal solution, or a negotiated settlement. Those are all just merit badges to be collected along the way to a more important goal: what they really want, and what they in fact demand, is that you agree with them. They want you to believe. ”
If you have any doubt about the agenda of the “Homosexual rights” movement, this should help you understand.
Oregon Labor Commissioner Brad Avakian finalized a preliminary ruling today ordering Aaron and Melissa Klein, the bakers who refused to make a cake for a same-sex wedding, to pay $135,000 in emotional damages to the couple they denied service. … In the ruling, Avakian placed an effective gag order on the Kleins, ordering them to “cease and desist” from speaking publicly about not wanting to bake cakes for same-sex weddings based on their Christian beliefs.
Shawn Mathis has written over 300 articles in six years for Examiner.com as a “Christian Perspectives Examiner.” On Wednesday he was fired. In an email Mathis tells Caffeinated Thoughts, he was told, “”We appreciate the time, effort and consideration you put into this work, but we feel that your content is not the right fit for Examiner.com at this time.”
“ Love is dead. Feminists killed it. Having made it impossible that men and women could ever love each other — for how can the helpless victim of male supremacy be expected to love her oppressor? — feminists are now determined that sex should also be eradicated. ”
This is where worldview intersects with how we actually live on a daily basis — what do we believe about people at their most basic level?
- If you believe people are fundamentally evil, or even capable of being corrupted and doing great evil, then you favor controls on all people, even those who are in positions of power, such as the government.
- If you believe people are basically good, they just need to guided in the right direction, or just need to right sort of social outcomes to be good, then you will be a “first stage” progressive. You will believe that it just takes a “nudge,” through government, social media influence, education, and other factors to make the world a better place.
- This “first stage” progressivism, when confronted by reality, will either slip into a more conservative view of the world, or it will slide down the slope into a more progressive view. If you believe that the world could be a better place, if only we could put some group of supermen, which always resolves to a single superman, in power, then you have slipped to the point of tyranny in the name of the good.
There are, in reality, only two choices here — one leads to limited government and holds a realistic view of people. Christianity and Judaism clearly stand in this camp. The other leads here.
The modern view of courage is, at best, baffling — consider:
- It is courageous to “come out” a gay in a world where 26 million people changed their profile images to rainbow flags as a celebration of homosexuality on one social media service alone. It is bigoted to “come out” as a Christian or conservative, and doubly bigoted to come out as both.
- It is courageous to have surgery so you move from being a 66 year old man to being a 20-odd year old woman, and then pose on the front cover of a popular women’s magazine. It is narrow minded, feeble, and scornful to go into actual live combat to defend the freedom to undergo that surgery and appear on that magazine cover.
- It is courageous to lie to Congress, the Courts, and anyone else who will listen about why American men and women died in some faraway land, such as Benghazi. It is racist, misogynist, and narrow minded bigotry to question the official story line, to ask for facts, to try to understand what really happened and why.
- It is courageous to declare the world is in the grips of uncontrollable climate change — to accept millions of dollars in funding each year to prove that almost every aspect of our lives needs to be placed into the hands of a small group of people “for your own good.” It is a denial of science to say such claims must be investigated in the full light of the facts available, including every possible cause for any climate changes, the likely impact to human life from taking any specific action, and to dig into the research methods and models used to make such claims.
The ultimate form of courage in our world, however, is to be “true to yourself” — in other words, to do whatever feels good. Whatever feels good quickly morphs into whatever pokes God in the eye, and finally into whatever brings me closer to self-destruction.
Modern courage seems to be the act of spitting into the wind and celebrating your bravery until your actions return to make a mess on your face.